Today is week 52 of #TWmemorymondays // #tiffanywongartmas edition!

Happy Christmas Eve!! Sending love to you!

Today I'm continuing yesterday's conversation about commitments, and I'm going to revisit a commitment that came out of #TWmemorymondays - week 13. I write about an interaction with my friend @ that made a big impact on "negative" emotions and assumptions I make about people having or not having kids. Swipe to read that memorymonday.

This the commitment I made:

I will NEVER ask anyone (regardless their marital status) when they are having kids.

Another way it was helpful for me is how good it is when people are vulnerable with their true emotions. Even if its anger. When it's expressed in a way that is vulnerable and not in a controlling or violent way, it can be so healing. Something I've talked a lot this year is how people with privilege aka white people are naturally positioned where they want to tone police and control POC's expression of emotion - so that the white person can feel comfortable. There's so much emphasis of how POC's can and cannot express themselves, and rarely is there attention of how white people should always yield their power and actually enter in grieving the reality of our white supremest society - and how they contribute to it! SO many stereotypes and caricatures that POC's are afraid to be categorized as: angry black woman, dragon lady, tiger mom, or simply the person who always pulls out the "race card."

All emotions are good emotions. The goal is to foster connection and an environment where there is safety to be vulnerable.

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#TWmemorymondays: A painting inspired by a memory every Monday of 2018. Connecting abstract art to real life. Week 52/53. 'Emotions' / 8x8 in / mixed media on paper